My husband and I just celebrated our 10 year wedding anniversary on February 24. On our wedding day there was no doubt I loved my husband. But today, this present day, my love is in abundance and will exist for an eternity.
I think back to my wedding vows. For richer...for poorer, in sickness....and in health. You trust saying those vows that our spouse will come through in the hard times. You don't know for sure until you are faced with a hardship. Until it happens you never know how you will react when faced with a chronically ill spouse. You just pray you have the strength to do the right thing.
My husband Joe has exceeded any expectations regarding my care. I can honestly say my only job right now is to concentrate on getting better. My medications make me extremely tired. I spend my days resting and sleeping so I can have enough energy to spend time with my family when they get home from school and work. I know I am very lucky because most people with this illness have no choice but to work.
My husband makes sure the grocery shopping is done, the house is clean, the bills are paid, laundry is done, my daughter gets out to see relatives, that she gets to school, that I have rides to my doctors appointments and treatments if he can't take me. He never hesitates to take time off work if I need him. He argues with the insurance company and advocates for my care when I am unable to. All this while working a full time job.
My husband has never complained that this is not how our life was supposed to turn out. We wanted more children. To own a house not own a condo. When I cry in frustration he just holds me and tells me he loves me and everything will be ok. He has never made me feel bad for burdening him with my illness. I can tell this is hard for him sometimes. He just pushes through.
Joe is so amazing. I am so in love with him more and more everyday. I couldn't ask for a better father and male influence for my daughter and a better mate to grow old with. He is my rock and without him I don't know where I would be today.
I know there are sicker people in the world, I know there are service men and women being heros. This is us and life is a struggle right now. My husband Joe is my hero. I love him bunches :-)
Sunday, June 12, 2011
I have been married to my husband 15 years and we have a beautiful 12 year old daughter. I was diagnosed with RA 8 years ago. I am a Nationally Licensed Massage Therapist and a Nationally Certified Pharmacy Technician. My mission is to raise awareness and understanding of the general public and those suffering from RA by telling my story and sharing what I've learned in school. The information on this site should not be used in place of, but rather to compliment directives from your healthcare professional. ~last modified 7/26/16